Most women claim that confidence is one of the most important requirements to have for healthy sex life. From the way you talk to the way you dress, a display of confidence has a strange way of turning on a lady. Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Confidence does not come easily to everyone. Even the tall, muscular, handsome men that appear fearless may be overwhelmed with anxiety when it comes to bedroom affairs. In a culture where sexual performance is perceived as the gauge for manhood, many young sexually active men are threatened by the fear of failure.
Is my penis too small? This is the most common question asked by men behind the closed doors of a doctor’s examining room. As young boys, a peep inside your pants was triggered by nothing but curiosity. The boys’ washroom was a place to assess the intriguing developmental changes that occur in adolescence. Sadly, the twilight years of adolescence became a competition for who has the biggest penis to work with. Currently, the common assumption is that the bigger the penis, the better the sex. Even those who have an averagely sized penis fear that this can hinder their sexual performance. According to recent studies, the size of a penis has little effect on sexual performance. Only those suffering from a pathologically small penis face the risk of failing to arouse their partners.
Unlike track events, finishing fast doesn’t earn you too much praise in the bedroom. All sexually active men at some point in their lives have felt embarrassed for achieving orgasm too early. The blank stares and silence that follow such situations can be very awkward and embarrassing. Most couples regrettably opt to maintain silence rather than discuss the problem. Consequently, any men experience depression and fear to have sex. The solution to this problem can easily be found through dialogue. Sometimes all that is needed is to change your sex position or gradual arousal. Such simple solutions can be sought through conversation. Just talk about it, there’s nothing to be afraid of.
Everyone wants to be number one but when it comes to sex, finishing last isn’t such a problem. Unfortunately for some men, it is. Some sexually active men actually have a problem achieving orgasm, and this recurrent problem lessens their interest in sex. Such men fear that their failure to achieve orgasm actually affects the satisfaction of their partners. Although this is true, the solution lies in establishing new ways to arouse each other. Spicing up sex can be a fun and effective way of solving the problem.
Tall, dark and handsome is the description given by most ladies for a sexually appealing man. Fortunately, beauty only lies in the eyes of the beholder. Most men are not blessed with tall, lean figures. Although men don’t care as much about their appearance as women do, most fear their body will affect their sexual performance. The situation can be so bad that a dimly lit bedroom is not an effort to be romantic. It’s an act of camouflage. Pressure from sexual partners to lose weight or gain muscle may leave a man anxious about getting naked in the bedroom. The discomfort affects their sexual performance and triggers a vicious cycle.
There are certain medical conditions that cause problems in sexual health. These range from hormonal imbalances to chronic diseases of the kidney and the liver. Many diabetics report cases of erectile dysfunction, and this can cause anxiety among sexually active young men. Some medications used to manage medical conditions also have side effects that range from erectile dysfunction to reduced libido. These include steroids that are commonly used in conditions like asthma. Many male users of such drugs are unaware of the side effects and unfortunately, develop anxiety following their altered sexual performance. Even patients who know about potential side effects can get anxious. They expect non-performance, and this makes them avoid sex altogether. Although some medical conditions cause permanent change, most side effects from drugs are reversible.
No man is guaranteed of exceptional sexual performance in all their sexual encounters. That said, fear is the worst way to approach shortcomings in the bedroom. Open discussions, a few compromises, and perhaps a visit to the doctor are enough to resolve most sexual health problems. There is nothing to fear but fear itself, so break the cycle of sexual anxiety today.